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Ok i can see we have opened a can of worms.
I was talking about the baby who had no chance of living a meaningful life. Not an adult fighting cancer.
Parents love their children so much they lose objectivity. What if the newborn baby will have a life of pure misery until the inevitable death but the parents cannot see this because their love for their child is clouding their judgement? Should the baby be forced to live a life of misery so their parents can fight the disability? It seems a little selfish.
In regards to cancer of an adult. You are right in that people should be able to choose whether to fight or not. But is it the family of the patient and not the patient who wants to fight? This is important. Depending on the severity we need objectivity. This where a professional comes in.
In my experience with cancer my father passed away about 3 years ago. The thing i learnt was even though we were fighting for him to get better he didn't feel the same way. What's best for the family wasn't what was best for the patient. My dad had jaw cancer so they removed his jaw and started him on chemo. They said the cancer was all gone and he would be ok. During his recovery he couldn't eat through his mouth, couldn't hear anything, couldn't walk and in general the quality of his life was very low. Nine months after the first diagnosis he died because the cancer came back. We were lucky that it only lasted 9 months which was actually a good thing for both the patent and the family because short and swift is preferable to fighting a long 10 years and then still losing.
Please don't give condolences. I'm cool with it
ps i have a six year step son.
I was talking about the baby who had no chance of living a meaningful life. Not an adult fighting cancer.
Parents love their children so much they lose objectivity. What if the newborn baby will have a life of pure misery until the inevitable death but the parents cannot see this because their love for their child is clouding their judgement? Should the baby be forced to live a life of misery so their parents can fight the disability? It seems a little selfish.
In regards to cancer of an adult. You are right in that people should be able to choose whether to fight or not. But is it the family of the patient and not the patient who wants to fight? This is important. Depending on the severity we need objectivity. This where a professional comes in.
In my experience with cancer my father passed away about 3 years ago. The thing i learnt was even though we were fighting for him to get better he didn't feel the same way. What's best for the family wasn't what was best for the patient. My dad had jaw cancer so they removed his jaw and started him on chemo. They said the cancer was all gone and he would be ok. During his recovery he couldn't eat through his mouth, couldn't hear anything, couldn't walk and in general the quality of his life was very low. Nine months after the first diagnosis he died because the cancer came back. We were lucky that it only lasted 9 months which was actually a good thing for both the patent and the family because short and swift is preferable to fighting a long 10 years and then still losing.
Please don't give condolences. I'm cool with it
ps i have a six year step son.